Relationships are complex and continuously changing, as each person in a relationship continues to grow and change themselves.  The foundation of every good relationship is understanding and trust.  What happens when a previously good relationship gets challenging?  How do you prevent trust from continuing to deteriorate, and how do you communicate so as to build a new foundation of understanding?  Finally, what do you do when you are the only one who wants to repair the relationship?

The good news is that most relationships can be improved and repaired, even if only 1 person commits to doing so. The common element in relationships in need of repair is that the parties involved experience the other person as acting with Conscious Negative Intent or CNI.  What does this mean?  Each person believes that the other person is knowingly and willfully wanting to hurt them, and nearly all communication between them is evaluated through this filter.  When CNI is present, there is no trust and little understanding.  Relationship repair depends on raising both the quality of communications and the level of trust between the parties.  Surprisingly, this is a matter of training one or both people to communicate precisely and more clearly, and having one or both parties commit to trusting the other party while concurrently earning the trust of the other party.

While the “what to do to repair a relationship” has just been described, the “how-to-do-it” requires a little bit of education, some training and role playing, and a safe place in which to build confidence while learning these new approaches.

For those people who want to repair, improve, or enter new relationships, you can learn the techniques and tools of high rapport/high understanding communications, which becomes the foundation for a trusting and respectful relationship.  Whether you learn this alone or with another person, your communications will improve and all your relationships will get better.

Most people are able to learn and then use these skills in 3 sessions or less.  Whether you’d like to work on your relationship skills alone or with another person, the results are both immediate and dramatic.

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